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Ponedjeljak, 30 Ožujak 2009 14:55

Neke ljubavi cvjetaju i prerastu u stabilne odnose, a neke nazaduju i pretvore se u nezdrave, ili čak otrovne odnose. Ponekad ljubav završi naglo, svađom ili lupanjem vratiju, a nekad postepeno, šutnjom i hladnoćom. U oba slučaja potrebno je odžalovati prekid ljubavi, jer čak i ako je rastanak bio neizbježan, on je uvijek bolan, tvrdi Therese J. Borchard, psihološka savjetnica, autorica priručnika za samopomoć.

1. Napišite oproštajno pismo

Naravno, nitko ga neće pročitati, niti je to smisao. Vježba pisanja je zadivljujuće terapeutska. Pisanje virtualnih pisama bivšim partnerima, prijateljima i članovima porodice je izuzetno iscjeljujuće. Omogućava nam da lakše sagledamo emotivne odnose, kao i svoje sazrijevanje kroz njih.

2. Oslobodite osjećaje

Ponekad je potrebno osloboditi osjećaje kako bismo ih mogli obraditi. Nekoliko korisnih vježbi: gledanje zajedničkih slika, slušanje pjesama koje aktiviraju sjećanja, ili posjeti kafiću gdje ste se prvi put susreli. Sve ovo pomoći će da se osjećaji probude i da tugovanje završi.

3. Odbacite uspomene

Kino ulaznice, salvete iz restorana, plišani zeko… sakupite sve uspomene ljubavi koja je postala prošlost i hrabro ih bacite iz svog života. Dokle god ih čuvate, ne možete otvoriti prostor novoj ljubavi.

4. Dajte si vremena

Nitko ne prekida važan odnos bez žaljenja. U pitanju je gubitak, a što ste više ulagali, gubitak je bolniji. Znajući da će razdoblje žaljenja uključivati plime i oseke, dajte si vremena. Vrijeme sve liječi i tako će izliječiti i prekid ljubavi.

5. Potražite novu ljubav

Upišite tečaj kompjutera, stranog jezika ili aerobika. Recite prijateljima i prijateljicama da vam preporuče nekog slobodnog. Prijavite se na internet društvenu mrežu. U početku će vam biti neugodno, no to je dobar znak emotivnog zacjeljenja. Promjena može biti zabavna i iznenaditi vas.

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